Looking at online dating profiles amazes me sometimes.  Not to be rude, but I sometimes wonder if guys consider how they're coming off to women.  I know we think very differently, but you should learn how to market yourself to us, or get help so that you can do it right.

The smartest online daters get the female perspective before they make their profiles live. Save yourself the effort, and just have a woman write it in the first place.  Better yet, email me at Kate@AreYouSingleSeattle.com, and I'll do it for you for $10.  Seriously, I want to help!

Here are some things you don't want to do:

1. Don't post a photo of yourself with another woman.  I don't care if it's your momma or sister.  Women will wonder who the woman is and why you cared to post a photo with her on your profile.  Your photo should have you and only you in it, and it should be a recent photo- very recent.
   
   
2. Don't lie about your height.  If things go well, she's going to meet you in person and figure it out anyway.  If you're 5'4", learn to be confident about it.  It's not that big of a deal.  (Call me if you need help with confidence by the way.)


3. Don't talk too much about sex.  To be clear, if you're looking for anything long term, don't mark the "casual relationship" or "just sex" options.  Women think it's unbelievably attractive when a guy is clear about wanting something long term.


4. Don't make spelling or grammatical errors.  As one of my friends said, if you make these errors, it looks like you either don't know proper English, or you just don't care.  Neither reason is attractive!


5. Don't be boring or passive. Tell people about yourself and what you're looking for. Tell us about who you are and be fun. Talk about your interests and things you like to do, and remember that words are important to women.  If we don't like what you write, we won't write you back (even if you're really good looking.) 


6. Don't be negative.  There's no reason to let people know that you are "an artist working as a barista in the day for some side cash."  Just be an artist and a barista and be proud of it!  Confidence is as attractive as it gets.  Avoid wishy-washy statements like, "I can't believe I'm dating on the Internet."


7. Don't be a wuss.  Women like men who are just that- men!  Most of us are deeply turned off my immaturity, and guys who don't know what they want in life.  It's okay if you don't 100% know what you want in life, but don't mention that in your singles ad.  And if you have tons of kittens or like cute and cuddly things, don't broadcast that until you've met someone you're into.


8. Don't mention your exs and past relationships.  This makes women insecure and turned off.  The only thing we want to know about your ex is that it's over; you don't like her; and, you never think about her. 

Marketing yourself can be difficult.  Need help?  Call me at 206 588 KATE.  I can help you with any of your dating issues.  Check out AreYouSingleSeattle.com for more info.